Marriage is a bond of love, and with this new bonding, many changes come into existence. Some changes are necessary after you get married, but should ‘YOU’ change for the one you love? The answer is a definite ‘NO’. You are a strong, independent woman and there are some aspects about yourself that you shouldn’t change for anyone, not even for your husband.
1. Your Identity
Despite the fact that customs direct that a woman needs to take up her better half’s surname, it’s not impolite to not do that. It’s just about preserving your identity. A woman doesn’t need to change her name (unless you are impressed with your hubby’s surname) just to be with her man and neither should her husband force her to do so.
2. Your Dreams
Your dreams and aspirations are the most important part of your life. It helps in making up your own personality. Like you, they are unique too. And you should never give up your uniqueness. Dream on and struggle to achieve what you want, and on no occasion should you give in to responsibilities and marital pressures
3. Beliefs and Opinions
Your beliefs and opinions are your own and no one should have a problem with them. If someone tries to ridicule them, then you ought to put your foot down.
4. Your Career Choices
This is your life and you are entitled to live it on your terms. Marriage is a starting up of a new life, but it should not be the end of your career. If you are good at something and want to make a career in that field, don’t shy away or hesitate. Just do what your heart says and follow your dreams.
5. Care For Your Family
Be it taking care of your family’s health, a financial requirement or any other need, you shouldn’t be restricted by your marital relationship. Parents and siblings are the ones with whom you have spent a majority of your time. Keep in touch with them, meet them, connect in any way possible, but never leave them on their own after you get married.
6. Fashion Choices
Be carefree and follow your fashion as you did before marriage. Don’t bother what others will think about your dressing choices. Maintain your taste and appreciate your fashion sense. Enjoy wearing what you are comfortable in.
7. Your Hobbies
Do what makes you happy. Enjoy what you like. This can be reading books, cooking, painting, or anything that seems to interest you. Never let your talent go to waste. Under no circumstances should you let your hobbies and interests take a back seat.
8. Your Friends
Never let go of your friends. They have always been by your side through ups and downs. They become a part of life and almost like a second family. And no one leaves their family, right? So it doesn’t make any sense for you to leave or change your friend circle for your husband. Buddies are buddies for life!
9. Freedom and Personal Space
Don’t depend on your husband for everything. Be independent and have your own freedom to do things. Don’t let your husband or his family interfere with your privacy and freedom. You don’t need consent for every little thing you do in your life after marriage. Feel free to discuss about this and don’t stay trapped in these post marriage societal norms.
10. Decision-Making Power
Be independent. You are responsible for your own decisions and no one else. A woman shouldn’t give up her power of decision-making after her marriage. You have every right to decide what is good for you or your family. Don’t shy away from giving your ideas or opinions.
11. Social Media Presence
Changing your profile appearance or shutting or deleting your social media account is becoming common after marriage. Anyone can make out from this that it’s not a personal choice. In this century, when everyone and everything is connected through social media, how can one delete it from their life? Don’t stop posting your selfies with your friends, your pets or your loved ones. Keep your status updated, tell everyone what you are up to (if that is what you wish to do). If this makes you happy then don’t change yourself to make others happy. It’s your life, girl! Live it your way and cherish every moment.
12. ‘ME’ Time
Remember how you managed to take out some time from your busy schedule for yourself. So what happened now? The ‘ME’ time should be the essence of your life. After marriage, you are preoccupied with the entire workload. So, where is the time for you to take care of yourself and do what you like. Make it a habit and plan some time that is just for you – not your husband’s, not your family’s, not anyone else’s. Go out and have a good time with yourself, be a sole shopper, or if you are happy doing nothing, then just sit back and relax.