A study suggests that the average length of a marriage that ends in a divorce is eight years. All couples struggle with a stale relationship. “Passionate love is the love of arousal, excitement, newness and mystery, and [it] happens at the beginning of a relationship,” said Terri Orbuch, author of 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great. On average, passionate love tends to decline after 18 months, she said, but that does not mean that passionate love goes to zero. There are many ways that couples can perk up their relationship.

1. Appreciate your partner

Remember all the little things that your partner did and you couldn’t help but be crazy about him. With passing time, you started taking those things for granted. Now is the time that you once again learn and start appreciating your partner for everything he did for you to give you every ounce of happiness you deserve.

2. Engage in a new activity

The key to reigniting the spark is to mimic the period of time when you first started dating. This can be done by taking up a new activity or engaging in a new interest together. Trying something new sparks excitement, producing passion. You can do anything from hiking to deep sea diving to salsa to eating at a new restaurant.

3. Go on a vacation

Get away, just the two of you, from the pressure of your lives and go hide in some distant secluded hut on a high mountain. Go on a vacation to some quiet place where you can find yourself away from the world and closer to each other. Avoid crowded tourist destinations. Rent a house somewhere relatively unexplored. This might help you explore the unknown side of your partner.

4. Be kind

We tend to take advantage of those we love the most, probably because we know they love us and we can get away with it. You have a bad day at the office and come home and take it out on your mate. A much healthier pattern is to start out each day by asking yourself, “What can I do today to make my partner happy?” And, it’s important that you mean it when you say this. Doesn’t it make more sense to put your best face on for someone you love? Look for ways to say “yes.” That sometimes means sitting through endlessly long ball games, putting on a tie, watching a horror movie with your eyes closed, and travelling old Civil War battleground sites when you really wanted to be vacationing on a beach in Hawaii.

5. Relish the silence

Not every argument needs to be turned into a fight. The best way to address an issue or a problem, sometimes, is to walk away from it and let it go. Know that the words spoken by an angry partner were not meant to them. Know that every insult is not intended. Try to forgive and forget. Holding on to hate and anger would not do anyone any good. Keep reminding yourself why you married this person.

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