No one ever said being a parent was easy. The burden of raising a good child, while handling things like finances, making sure the level of well-being is maintained in your household and providing the best of everything for your family, is a Herculean task. However, in the midst of this, some parents get lost and fail to understand that being a child isn’t a piece of cake either. In a confusing world, where they’re just trying to develop and are often misunderstood by parents, it can get a bit frustrating for your child as well.
Here are a few ways to understand your child better, so you can be a better parent.
1. Understanding temperament
It is very important as a parent to understand your child’s temperament before passing judgements. Every child is different, as they react differently to situations. Take the time out to notice if your child is an introvert or extrovert, is he/she is a fast or slow learner or his/her ease of responsiveness. It helps to predict your child’s behaviour to build a better connection with them in the future.
Obviously, the things that bother your child are very different from what bothers you. No doubt the severity of the problem seems like a joke to you. However, to them, who haven’t seen the extent of real problems, their problems seem devastating in their mind. It can be something as simple as wanting their friends toy. Make sure to never make your children feel stupid for what they’re feeling. Try your hardest to make them feel understood and heard, no matter how trivial.
3. Mutual respect
You’ve provided the best of things for your child, and you no doubt deserve immense respect and love. However, make sure it’s reciprocated. If you raise your child in an environment of respect, where you make them feel like their opinions and feelings are valid, they’ll implement it in all aspects of life. It gives them a feeling of self-worth and importance, which is crucial for the development of every child.
4. Make collaborative decisions
To make your child feel more included in everyday processes and to teach them the how’s and why’s of life, make sure to take their opinion on every matter. It could be something as small as the purchase of a new carpet for your house. You always have the last decision, but they will also feel like their opinion matters and is heard. These simple gestures teach them a lot of valuable lessons, which will help them later on.
As a parent, you need to understand that as your child grows from one stage to another, the way they view life changes. When they’re young, it’s about having the best toys. As they grow older, it’s about staying out late with friends and going on trips. To you, it may seem a little irrational but try and understand the world from their perspective. It may even help you to see life a little more clearly. Every development phase has a different priority, which takes a lot of patience as a parent to understand.