Parenting is one of the toughest roles that humans have to play in their lives, and we all try a whole lifetime trying to perfect it. While life doesn’t come with a rulebook on ‘How To Parent’, there sure are a few tips, which will make parenting a lot easier.
Here we’ve listed the best tips we came across that could make you a better parent.
1. Set A Good Example
Kids follow. Children are always learning from what they see. Parents are the first teachers for them, and they end up adopting habits that they observe their parents doing. So, the next time you lose your temper and raise your voice, remember that your kid is watching you.
2. Be Involved, But Just Enough
Being involved is hard because you are treading a fine line between being concerned and being controlling. It also means putting your child’s needs first, and sometimes prioritizing your child’s life over yours. However, being involved doesn’t mean you do their work for them. For example, your child should do his/her own homework, with you only helping them when it’s needed.
3. Teach Them To Be Independent
One of the most difficult things about parenting is letting the kids take decisions for themselves. Whether it is when they are 4 or 14, the instinctive thing for any parent to do would be to decide on the kids’ behalf. While some decisions cannot be taken by kids alone, it is important for you to remember that children have to learn not to depend on their parents/friends for every decision of theirs.
4. Don’t Spoil The Kids
Love your kids, but not to the extent of them becoming spoilt children. By replacing your affection with things like leniency, lowered expectations or material possessions, you actually are changing what kids perceive to be ‘display of affection’.
5. Grow Up As A Parent
Your parenting style must change with the times. You can’t be the same parent to the two-year-old when they turn twenty. Parents usually don’t realize that while their kids develop with age, the same aging must also happen in the way you behave with them. While you can punish your 8-year-old for being stubborn, the same remedy isn’t possible for an angsty 16-year-old who is probably going through puberty or problems at school.
6. Explain Yourself
Parents set rules and regulations for their kids, often without explaining why. Especially when growing up, it becomes important that kids understand why it is you’re expecting something from them. Adolescents often lack the priorities, judgment or experience that parents do and hence, might even turn rebellious. Explaining your decisions will often convince the child about what you’re asking them to do.
7. Respect Your Kids
Children learn by imitation. If you want your kids to be respectful, then you must respect them and show them how it’s done. You should treat them with the same courtesy you would expect from them. Respect their opinions, pay attention when they speak and speak your mind while also remaining polite. Children often treat others the way they are treated by their parents.