Father-in-laws are can be sweet, humble and perfect gentlemen. They encourage us and keep us relaxed most of the time. They balance the relationships, sort out the misunderstandings and hold the family together. But as we know, nothing interesting is ever completely perfect and father-in-law is no exception. They could be annoying, frustrating and make us cry out loud. Here are the 7 most annoying habits of Father-in-laws that get on our nerves:
Father-in-laws are authoritative to our spouse right from birth and they try to continue the same even after their sons are married. They haven’t learnt to let go and try to maintain the similar control over their son’s family. Deciding what the daughter-in-law should do and what she shouldn’t, what she should be wearing and what she should not – these are small things in life but if it keeps happening regularly, it gets on everyone’s nerves.
2. Cribbing about money
The second category of father-in-laws, who are similar to bottomless pits, are the ones who are always broke and want to borrow money. They can be very difficult to handle. We agree, father-in-law is the head of the family and should look into financial matters. But cribbing for every penny we spent could be very infuriating. Everyone, by the time they marry, will be matured enough to calculate their earnings and expenses and to understand the need to save for their family and future. So, commenting about every penny we spent on ourselves is a “No! No!” for us.
3. Commenting about our profession
The education we had and the education our father-in-law had is definitely different. There is a difference of a few decades and also the profession and what it demands. It might be the time we stay at the office, the meetings we attend, the formal dresses we wear, etc. Commenting about our profession is one of the most distressing things anyone could do.
4. Invading private space
Knocking the door early in the morning, willing to join for dinner uninvited, wanting to come on a trip which you have planned only for you and your spouse, entering the room while you and your husband is having private conversation – these are the things which show our private space is being invaded. This would absolutely get on our nerves.
5. Judgments about parenting style
Father-in-laws have different social and political beliefs and so are the views about parenting style. It is not just because of the generation gap between our father-in-laws and us but also because of the way they have been raised. As daughter-in-laws, by and large, we accept it and embrace the differences in parenting style but father-in-laws make a mountain out of a molehill. “It was not like this in our time.” is not something we want to hear.
6. Violating the boundaries
Father-in-laws, under the tag of “Helping the kids”, would meddle in every possible thing of our life – selecting an apartment for us, selecting our baby’s name, deciding which school the child should go, etc. These are the things which can certainly be frustrating for the daughter-in-law. All we can do is practice setting boundaries.
7. Over-pampering the grandchildren
Being a parent, we always have our own set of rules in bringing up of children – such as not letting the child eat chocolates at inappropriate times, limiting the junk foods – and we expect our child to follow. Father-in-laws, out of love (or not), encourage the child to break those rules. This way, father-in-laws inculcate in the children, the habit of ignoring the parents’ words.